What Being Single Means

(This is for the single souls out there...i didn't write this though)

Single means you have the time to grow and be the person you want to be.

Single gives you space to grow. Sometimes, it is harder to grow when you are too close to someone. Trees are planted far apart so they can spread their branches and become strong as they mature.

Single means learning to live by yourself. However, that is no more difficult than learning to live with somebody else.

Single means freedom. You are free to spend a week's vacation on the beach, to take diving courses, to hang out with friends, to work late on an interesting project, to spend the day in bed with a good book or simply with a person who has read one.

Single means learning not to need a man/woman to make your life meaningful but learning to live with a man/woman because you want to be with him/her.

Single means that sometimes you will wonder why you will bite your lip and feel wistful and wonder if marriage is better.

Ironically, yet quite happily, single is feeling good about being in control of your life. It is liking and respecting who you are and why you are.

Single is realizing that being married is not necessarily better, it is merely different.

Single means that there could be something wonderful around the corner and you can take advantage of it.

Single means you are free to love again.

Can I?

[RE-POST] Originally posted at my other blog site 06/07/05 10:57 AM

This is soooo cheezy! But what can i say? I have a flair for the dramatic. I have more of these stuff. I wrote this at a time when i was an emotional wreck more than 3 years ago. I'm thankful that phase of my life is over... Catch a glimpse of that by reading on...

Can I?

- a poem of longing

Can I think of you?

Even if your mind wanders elsewhere...

When elsewhere is the face of another...

Can i dream of you?

Even if in your dreams you seem content...

Content with the love and care of some other...

Can i be jealous of others near you?

When there's no reason that i should be...

And being thus means fooling only me...

Can i be possessive of you?

When you already belong to him, while I...

Don't have you, don't own you, when i most need you...

Can i make love with you?

But in having this love consummated...

We destroy ties, trusts and friendships too...

Can i touch you? Hold you? Embrace you?

Warm up my being...

Give meaning to my existence...

Ignite the fire in my soul...

Am i allowed to miss you?

I feel helpless, i feel desperate...

I'll get crazy of this longing for you...

Can i at least look at you?

Gaze at that face, you don't have to look back...

Just for a moment, be by my sight...

Can i talk to you? Speak to you?

Let my whispers reach your ears...

Let my words drown out your fears...

Can i love you? Love you. Love you!

Let my lips touch those cheeks...

Let these eyes gaze that beauty...

Let my hands soothe your pains...

Let this feeling soar, fly free...

The Doer, The Receiver and The Friends

A reply to >> http://daemononline.blogspot.com/2008/09/of-infidelity-forgiveness-and-love.html

Being the perennial neutron that i am, i would have to agree on some things and disagree on others my good friend daemon said.

I agree that respect should be given. Even the doer of the dastardly act deserves the respect for having to muster enough courage to plea for forgiveness and re-acceptance. The receiver in return deserves the respect for his most generous act of forgiveness. Whatever they have decided, everyone should accept, no matter how the decision defies reason.

I disagree, on the other hand, on trusting the decision OUTRIGHT. Respect is one thing, trust is another. The former can be given without condition. The latter is where our personal biases come into play. One can not put trust into something just like that. Trust is earned after all. The decision must then earn the trust of everyone. Eventually, we’ll see what becomes of the decision, then and only then can we believe in it, or not.

I agree that forgiveness is a rare commodity nowadays. But believe me, to forgive is the easier part and everyone deserves it. And believe me also when I say that being the non-forgiver is worse than the person unforgiven. A grudge is heavy because it is the heart that carries it.

I disagree, on the other hand, on giving second chances to everyone OUTRIGHT. Forgiveness and second chances are not a package deal. While forgiveness is a rare commodity, second chances are the most expensive of them all. And not everyone should be able to afford it. However, anyone can be given charity. It is not about the doer deserving it. It is about the receiver being generous enough in giving it. And he has been.

On friends. I MAY not agree that they should just stand by on the way-side. Sometimes, the receiver may not have the strength to fight for himself, too crushed by the circumstances surrounding him that he could only whimper. Friends are there as your shield and your sword, always in front of you and ready to strike. Friends almost always react more passionately about any terrible thing that happened to the one directly involved. That validates how much they love you. And that’s why we love them.

To the receiver, you are most generous in forgiveness and second chances. That is admirable.

To the friends, you are passionate in protecting your own. I would be lucky to have you lot as my friends as well.

To the doer, learn. You are lucky to have that kind love your partner gives you. You have heard before what I had to say, live by it. Do not disappoint. You are my best friend, and I love you, but should you repeat, I will be the first to slap you on your face.